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Question by Nicegirl55: Why do men stray away from/or are afraid of taking care of their responsibilities when it comes to children?
I have a 3 year old son and I have been struggling to care for him because he has a speech delay and autism. My son father gives me money when he can but fails to understand that caring for an Autistic child is very hard on me and that I need alot more then just money from him to care for our son. Altho me and my sons father are not together I do feel like I should not be the only one going through this alone. I mean I am 25 years old, our son will be 4 this month and unfortunately he can only say 2 words, he is STILL in diapers (not pull ups), I would go on with a full page list of things he cannot do but ,,,its a little depressing.

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Answer by Je June
When you decided to become a single parent, you have no reason to think that the father take part in parenting responsibilities.

We can require him by law to help cover the child’s living expenses but he can’t be forced to help you.

I am sorry that you’re alone, please stop churning trying to get the father to help. He is not going to help and imagining that he will is distracting you from your responsibilities.’

Reach out to other women, particularly women with special needs children. They can offer support and coping tips, also they may know of services available that you were not aware of. There may be respite care (basically well qualified sitters provided by charities or the state) or a drop in center that can help you. Also you may be able to plan weekend outings together, it’s easier to take children out with another adult.

There are lots of autism groups all around the country. Look one up an seek help and support for people who are really available instead of wishing that some one who is not going to help would have a change of heart.

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Question by Mind in Motion: Should Asperger’s still count as Autism?
I don’t think so. When I see headbanging people in diapers with mental retardation, I can’t relate to that. I think Asperger’s is a social and multitasking disability with obsessions as part of it. When I see others with Autism in real life, I can’t relate because they seem so mentally challenged. I can’t pass for “normal” but I know how to properly articulate my thoughts.

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Answer by Nani
I’m not an expert at this okay. It’s just a thought, from being around all types of people all my life. Aren’t there many different forms of autism? I don’t think of someone with Aspergers as being Autistic but I think labels can be tricky, most are for medical treatment and perhaps school classification. You are obviously functioning quite well, have your struggles and challenges, as do we all, but contributing to society and very articulate. My autistic people in my life are not able to do this. They are awesome and have contributed to our lives in a different way and we have grown from having them in our lives. What you have said makes sense to me.

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Question by mars2boys: How closely do autistic children need to be supervised?
We have a 5-year old neighbor who is not potty trained and does not communicate well. She is still in diapers, yet she roams the neighborhood unsupervised…no shoes, no helmet when on her bike. I am considering calling social services, if she is not mentally of the age to be potty trained or communicate like a 5-year old, I wonder if she should be unsupervised outside so much. I don’t have much experience with autistic children, so wondered if this is more of a concern than if it were a child without autism.

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Answer by Needs suggestions
It dpends on the type of autisim and the severity of it. There are some types of autism where the child doesnt need any supervision. Although they are somewhat ‘altered’ they are able to live a generaly normal life. However there are also some people who need constant supervision. Alot of younger austic child, and those who are going threw puberty can be ver violent. It depends! You cant make judements.

But 5 year old shouldnt be outside unsupervised either way. Autistic or not. I think you should call social services. Even if they dont take her away they may be able to help the family or possibly find a way for them to afford extra help.

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Question by Lanandra: I think my son has autism?
My son is six years of age and reads at a seventh grade level. whenever he reads a book he becomes completely absorbed in it. He talks to us as if we are characters from the book. he will not listen to us when we call his name or talk to us unless we say his character’s name. He is also behind in daily skills. He still wears diapers, cannot walk, but he speaks with a large vocabulary. He cannot bathe himself or feed himself unless it is with a spoon or with his hands. He watches movies over and over (like tom sawyer and huck finn). He has night terrors and throws small fits in crowded places. He is fasinated by kites and traffic jams. He likes to line up his toy cars in a long line. Do you think he is showing signs of autism? My friend tells me he is just developing slowly, but i want to get a few other opinions before i take him to a doctor.

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Answer by Essence
I’m no doctor, but he does have some signs of autism. It’s probably best if you speak to a professional (your GP will refer your son to them I think) to see if he is autistic.

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Question by ?: I think my best friend/roomate’s child has autism or something…?
He is 3. He doesn’t talk. He cannot say hi, mama, dada, nothing. He makes toddler sounds. He walks but also crawls. He will not eat solid foods and throws fits if his baby food gets on his clothes. He gets eye contact and smiles and laughs, and loves being around children, however. I am not sure if this is purely because of neglect to try to teach, but I have a feeling that even if simply observing that the child would pick up on more than he can now. He is still in diapers and drinking out of bottles. I tried to talk to my friend about taking him to the doctor but she wont listen to me and says only that her doctor told her he would grow out of it. I found a website talking about seeing autism signs and the comparisons as to what a child should be doing by 3 years, and the boy doesnt even do what it says a 7 month old should be doing aside from walking. He does not throw fits or scream often, but he has problems with the texture of foods and gets very upset if you try to feed him anything solid. He gets fixated on material and often rubs his hands on them. He also plays a lot with plastic toy cars but will not use any ANY words even at all… thats about it…. I dont know any other things to add but feel free to ask. What should I do? I am 22 and living with her, she is 39 and is my mothers best friend… I dont know how I can get help for this child.

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Answer by Tracey Seth
It may not be autism, but there is something amiss.

Seriously, if this is a subject that has been approached by you before, I’d be calling child services.

If the mother is 39 and not getting that there is something “off” with her kid, then there needs to be an intervention of sorts so that that kid can get the services and intervention NOW. The sooner the better and less likely his delays will affect his future.

YOU are not equipped to approach her. Seriously, at 22, you know very little and it’s pretty clear she isn’t going to listen to you. So, contact someone she will listen to. Usually, a SS call will wake up people like that pretty fast. You can remain anonymous if you wish.

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Question by coolwestphal: Anyone have a son or daughter like this? HELP!!?
Backround
Daughter didn’t walk until 2
Now 3 just says maybe 20 words vocab of 18-24 month old
Very cautious when walking or playing
Still in diapers
Tested for everything including autism and head ct ect and docs just say she is delayed and will be ok
Looking for parents with similar traits in child.

Please help.

Frustrated Daddy

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Answer by Lisa
Is she receiving speech and physical therapy? She should be if she isn’t. Since she is 3 years old these services would be through your local school district.

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Question by Medusa: I have never baby sat before. Need help & advice! Please?
My mom told me that our neighbor needs a baby sitter for Saturday and asked if any of my friends would be willing to do it. I said I would do it. My mom told me one of the kids is special needs (the lady is a single parent of 6). I thought, “How bad could this be? It’ll be easy money”.
Yesterday I went over to meet the lady and her kids. She told me how to care for all of her kids. Turns out the special needs child is 18 years old, has autism, and mental retardation. She still wears diapers, drinks from bottles (can’t hold it herself though), and she can’t feed herself. One of the problems is, she hates to eat.
What do I do with her? Can’t I just lay her down, put the bottle in her mouth, and prop it up for her? She should be able to go 8 hours without needing her diaper changed, right? She also drools and puts everything in her mouth. What do I do when she bites? How do I keep her from leaving the house through the dog door? (the mom said that’s an ongoing issue). What do I do if she doesn’t listen? How do I get her to eat if she doesn’t want to, but needs to?
The mom said for me to just do what I think is best. What would you do if you were in this situation? (I will be watching all 6 kids)
I took the job because I feel bad for the mom. I NEVER said the special needs child is immobile. She crawls. She just doesn’t know how to feed herself. Also, she’s small for 18 years old. She’s only 4’0″ tall and weighs 85 pounds.

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Answer by June
You SHOULD not babysit for this job. To deal with a special needs PERSON (she is 18, not a child) you need to be qualified.

Please turn down this job for everyone’s sake.

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Question by Linnel: How to potty train an autistic?
I have an 11 year old brother who still uses diapers. He is diagnosed with autism and always spreads his doodoo in his room. My mom claims she disciplines him about it but it still happens. I’ve tried to train him myself and he instinctively goes to the tub, first. but he’ll either drink the toilet water and flush the water too much. I spank him in discipline to show him his error. And i try to show him how to wash his hands and he’ll drink up soapy water if i didn’t cover his mouth. So what am i doing wrong? or am i too late to help him with Hygiene?

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Answer by ron971
First, I would strongly encourage you and your mother to find a local support group for families with autistic children.

To address your question specifically, this resource should be helpful:

http://www.teacch.com/toilet.html

A couple of useful websites are:

http://www.teacch.com/ Treatment and Education of Autistic and related Communication Handicapped CHildren

http://www.autismspeaks.org/

Furthermore, physical punishment is counterproductive. Autistic children are hypersensitive to most any kind of vigorous stimulation and they will typically work hard to shut it out.

By far the most effective approach to changing the behavior of children and adults with autistic disorders is a procedure called Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA). This has been the standard of care for several decades and is thoroughly validated and tested. It is important that family members become familiar with the basic techniques of ABA so everyone follows the same plan.

Presumably your mother has consulted with a professional who is experienced in the treatment and education of autistic children. She should touch base with him or her for further guidance.

Hang in there and the best of luck.

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October 2004 — Tony is about 2.5 years old (just diagnosed with Autism the previous month).
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Bradley is 12, blind, and profoundly mentally retarded. He doesn’t speak, he still wears diapers, and he gets a shot and handfuls of pills everyday. However, he is a happy boy. He loves music and dancing. His favorite songs are The Battle Hymn of the republic, the lion sleeps tonight, you are my sunshine, and anything by the Red Hot Chili Peppers!
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Question by mcuriosity00: I think my friend is in Denial.What do you think?
My friend has a son who will be 3 in May.He is pretty tall for a 2yr old.Well this weekend I babysat him I took him to the park where there were alot of children his age.Well when we first got there he just sat and played with dirt for a good 30 min(He would have played the whole time if i had let him) Then i brought him over to a little boy,He looked at him….pushed him..ran and sat down and starred at the sky for 20 min.I would talk to him and he ignored me.Well he doesnt talk,he only says MAAAAAAAA! And he is still in diapers.I think he has Autism but she thinks its too early to tell.

Does he?
P.S. He is an only son,but there is always people around.
I do believe his parents are raising him “normal” They dont baby talk to him at all. I really dont want to tell my friend but I really think she is in denial,She is an RN and knows the symptoms,She SHOULD see it.

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Answer by ♫Tanesha ☆
hes a baby dude babies are babies he will grow out of it

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Question by cococremejuju: How can I get his father to interact more with him?
My son has autism and he is 3 years-old. His father and I have never been married. HIs father hasn’t seen him for 3 1/2 years due to being incarcerated. He has wrote letters and made phone calls in that time expressing interest in his child. Even now, he calls, but has only seen his son 3 times since he has gotten out nearly a month ago. He has no transportation, but I do, and I’m willing to come and get him, and let him spend time with his son, so he can try to bond with him. I try to give him reading material on Autism, every chance I get that he comes over. He always calls the shots on when he wants to see his son, and he always puts a time limit on it. It makes me soo angry, to the point where I don’t want to answer his phone calls anymore. He has a court order to pay child support, and I will not take him off under no circumstances. I understand that he can’t provide financially, but I feel that he can make up for this in other areas, like emotionally and physically being there for his son, and helping me in his son’s care. My son is still very dependent upon me to dress him for school, give him baths, and he is still in diapers, and non-verbal. I get so mad that I do all the work, while his dad sits back whereever he is and does nothing. HIs only excuse is that he doesn’t have any money, so until he is financially stable, he can’t really do anything now. But I beg to differ. Is not accepting anymore of his phone calls a good thing or a bad thing. I feel if he doesn’t want to learn about autism on his own, and he can’t help me financially, and he has the nerve to tell me not to call him unless it’s about his son, but how can I call him about that when he doesn’t know anything about him or can’t help me with him, what’s the point in calling him or him calling me for that matter? What do you think I should do? I’m at my wit’s end, no family support, no breaks, facing a major burnout, and no sort of support from my baby’s father. Help?

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Answer by K
“I feel that he can make up for this in other areas, like emotionally and physically being there for his son, and helping me”

But he doesn’t feel like this…

Collect the child support and work on strengthening bonds with other friends and family for you and your son.

A more charitable take on this would be that he feels confused and helpless, and having literature thrust in his face is adding to that, and “nearly a month” is not nearly enough time for him to learn the ropes of both fatherhood and autism.

But it does sound like you want more help than he is able to provide, and like you are building a lot of resentment that may be misplaced.

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Question by geowhizkid26: Would it be ethical to shrink me to a size of a 4 year old because of my Autism? Emotionally/socially I am 4.
I suffer from Autism, I am on the lower edge of high functioning Autism.
I am CHRONOLOGICALLY 32 years old, but emotionally and socially, I’m about at the level of 4 1/2 – 5 year old. My interests are like a 4 year old…I love Teletubbies, Care Bears, Barney, Sesame Street, etc. I even still have a pacifier, I have been using it for decades. I seriiously cannot help being like a 4 year old, it’s not like I purposely act like a 4 1/2 year old. If I was changed physically to a 4 year old, at least people would stop staring at me when I went to the store or supermarket and played with baby toys or candy. I’m not actually conscious they are staring at me, but my parents tell me. I feel my parents would respect me more too if I was the size of a 4 year old. Like as in some sort of proportionate dwarf, but everyone would think I was this little 4 year old kid who could speak, and leave me alone. I have many other child-related interests. I really can’t help being this way. It’s not as if I’m some sort of adult baby or something, I have no interest in infantilism, I don’t wear diapers, I’m potty trained and I certainly don’t find wetting a diaper sexual or anything like some of these strange ABs….I mean, they can control when they are being like a child, but I don’t have that ability. I’m so sick of being a child trapped into an adult’s body. A lot of people have told me that I’m like a 4 1/2 year old, and they’ve known me for 14-15 years (such as old instructors in college, close friends, relatives, etc).

Maybe the thing I want to ask really is would it be ethical to shrink me to the size of a 4 year old if a scientist was able to do so?? I read on some other question and answer on Yahoo that scientists have already shrunk smaller animals. So would it be ethical in my case?? And would you agree with my idea? I have several autistic friends and Asperger Syndrome friends who know me very well, and they say it would be ethical if something like that existed. What do you think?

I can’t hold a job because of my autism (I have a BA degree in Geography, but my autism prevents me from holding a job). I have ADHD and moderate to high functioning Autism. It is very frustrating. People have no idea of how frustrating living with autism is. I think if I looked like a 4 year old, at least I would have the physical age to match my emotional/social age. Of course, if I looked like a 4 year old boy, I would be sure to wear boutique longalls like Kelly’s Kids and Mulberry Street, and t-strap buckle shoes/English sandals (little boys look adorable wearing that stuff down South in South Carolina and Georgia). I’d be the most adorable toddler you ever saw. Of course, being 4 years old wouldn’t change that much about me, except I’d be smaller. I would still be potty trained, I would still able to speak, and to be able to listen to oldies/soft rock music. In fact, I listened to that type of music when I was really chronologically 4 years old.

What do you think?? PLEASE NO negative feedbacks. I’m being dead erious and I have a disability that is not fun. If you have nothing nice to say, don’t say it.

Preston from California

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Answer by mou
If some scientists wish to make an experiment out of you and you have signed a consent form, why not, if it makes you feel better in a psychological way ? Life is not a bed of roses, not even for the normal or so called normal people.

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Question by MaMaBEAR: Protecting your baby from a doctor?
Has anyone noticed the pediatrician treating your child like a number on a notebook? We went to a behavioural pedi on Tues last week, and he ordered a blood test. He asked if our son was still in diapers, and when we said yes (he’s 18 months old and being assessed for Autism,) he giggled and said “Oh good – we can get a urine sample then when we do blood work. Usually when we take blood they get so upset that they pee at the same time, so we can kill two birds with one stone. *giggle*” My husband and I sat there with horrified looks on our faces – First, our son has never ever had a needle, much less blood work done. Second, our son is very sensitive. Third, he’s being assessed for AUTISM. One of the many symptoms he has is c-o-n-s-t-a-n-t movement, and abnormal strength. I would like to meet the person who would be able to immobilize the child while they have a needle in his arm searching for a vein. I could not believe how “run of the mill” the doctor was about the test – Traumatizing him now before the rest of the testing gets underway, in my mind, is several steps BACKWARDS from where we want to be, not to mention the loss of trust in his dad and I for not protecting him in his mind. Has anyone else noticed this with their pediatrician? Almost like they’ve lost sight of the fact that this is an INFANT they’re dealing with, not a piglet? (My son is completely non-verbal so he cannot say “That hurts, or Mumma I’m scared, or Please stop.” He also cannot understand “Please sit very still, this is very important.”)

So again, has anyone else had to protect their child from a doctor?
Awww, thank you Mrs. Z – It has been awful so far, but we’re doing our best to keep it fairly “normal” for Noah – We didn’t have the bloodwork done and when I called the office today, they were pretty rude – I told them I would bring in a urine sample rather than them attach a bag to him and terrorize him into peeing – They said “No, sorry, that’s just not procedure.” Tell me what the difference is between him peeing at home, and him peeing at the office? Do they think I’ll switch the pee? And why, exactly, MUST the nurse take the sample? If I put my son’s feet in the bathwater, I only have to wait 10 seconds for him to pee all on his own, without a needle. But it’s not “procedure…”
Maykoz – Yes, we protected him by leaving and refusing the blood work. We’re going to request that they take the test when he is anesthetized before his MRI in May. That way, he is immobile, no chance of ripping through capillaries, veins and muscle tissue when he alligator roles out of our arms, and of course, the psychological factor won’t be there.
lol – you hit the nail on the head, yet again Mrs. Z – I would absolutely do whatever is necessary to help my child and to come to a diagnosis, but I believe there is more than one path to be considered to get to that destination. I do not feel the quickest most traumatizing route is the way to go for my child. He has a memory like an elephant, and Mumma not doing anything while someone hurts him is NOT going to be part of his long term, thank you very much.
I should mention again, we did not REFUSE the test outright, as in never ever having it done – We refused to do it THAT way. They will be able to take the blood test when he is “put under” for his MRI, thereby eliminating any chance of terror that he would otherwise undoubtedly have. As for blood work not hurting? I’m sorry, but I have had blood work done MANY times. It hurts, and it sucks. As an infant, I would scream and cry. I’m certain my son would too – Not to mention, he already refuses to be confined, and he has an “over-sensation” to being touched; All things are magnified, even tags on his shirt bother him; What do you think a needle is going to feel like? Even with a numbing cream?

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Answer by Mrs. Z plus 3
I’m so sorry. That is just awful. =(

No I have never been in a situation like that… if I were though I would have stood up, collected my family and left never looking back.

How did it all turn out?

**EDIT** and give your baby a hug from me. I’m still thinking about how awful that is and it makes my stomach churn. =(

**EDIT** That’s just rotten. Simply horrible. Is there any way to get a new doctor? I couldn’t imagine subjecting my baby to that… I agree with you. There’s no reason you can’t get the sample at home.

**EDIT** I don’t think some people understood the question… I think we all would hold our child still if they needed blood drawn or some necessary medical procedure. (I know I personally have the head lock down pat for ear exams…) but to see the doctor getting some type of “kick” out of all of it is rather sadistic.

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